It’s easy to become a bossy parent. Between home, school and work, sometimes all we see as parents are the homework that isn’t done, but we fail to see beyond the daily routine and may feel a little disconnected with our kids.
Today, we want to give you a hand and show you a few ways to focus on what matters the most for you: helping your kids grow happy and healthy.
Bond with them regularly to create a closer connection and you’ll see how discipline becomes less necessary as trust develops.
Prioritize time with your child
Bonding implies spending some quality time with the other person. However, to achieve that, you need to start by thinking in terms of quantity. What we mean by that, is that you can’t expect your child to be open with you and tell you her secrets if you only spend time together once every 2 months.
You need to start with quantity. Give priority to the time set aside for your child and try to make it appear regularly in your calendar. Once you have a routine then the “quality” moments are more likely to appear.
Start with trust
Trust is crucial in every meaningful relationship. Earning your child’s trust from an early age is important to show them they can rely on you. This means following through on the promises you have made, not breaking their trust and picking them up on time.
Re-connect after every separation
Parents naturally provide an anchor for kids to attach to and stay oriented. When kids are apart from parents they need a substitute, so they turn to teachers and coaches. We need to re-join with our kids physically and emotionally.
Take your kids on a date
Take them out and just have lunch one on one. This is a perfect occasion to let them open up and talk, hopefully they will share with you any idea or worry they have.
Bedtime bonding questions
Try asking some questions when putting your child to sleep. According to author Bill Corbett, the following are three questions that will help you bond with them:
- What is the best thing that happened to you today?
- What is the worst thing that happened to you today?
- What is the silliest thing that happened to you today?
Feel an adrenaline rush
Doing something exciting is definitively one of the best ways to build memories together. Go sweat, jump and get muddy with your child. It will make an impression and it won’t be rare when your kid will say “remember when we went on a bike race on that muddy course? That was awesome!”
Take a road trip
Going on a road trip is a fun way to make new experiences and talk. If you don’t have enough time during your working days then hit the road and it will be a perfect time to have some conversations, see new things and create memories together.
Let your inner child come out and get creative with your son or daughter. Creating something fun together out of your craft box is always a great idea to bond with your child.